Nurture Causes Nature

Maria Brumm states well a big part of why I don't like easy resort to a distinction between "authentic" desires and socially-imposed ones:

They're bits of my personality that were shaped by the patriarchal environment I grew up in and continue to be shaped by the patriarchal environment I live in right now; they're still me. I can recognize this without considering myself a slave of the patriarchy. Carrying around a bucket of weird influences from your environment, some of which you consider unsavory, is pretty much the human condition.

When confronted with any desire or personality aspect, the real question to me is not "is it real?" but "how can I resolve it?" Sometimes the most effective resolution is to indulge it, sometimes it's to repress it, sometimes it's to uproot it psychoanalytically.